Relaxation 101: Nine Ways To Take A Time-Out

Man, oh man! That’s it! I’m officially exhausted. Spent. Done like dinner.

Adam has been doing an ongoing rotation between Brisbane and Manila for work, and this morning he finally got home from another 2 week stint. I feel so guilty complaining about things as I am so blessed and grateful for everything in my life, however I must admit…it is TOUGH being a “single-mom”, particularly when I don’t have family here. Thomas has had all 4 top teeth breaking through this past week and I feel like I’ve been living the Nightmare Before Christmas. “Dude! Seriously? I’m here baking you organic chicken breast and steaming veggies at 7am so you have fresh food for the day. I’m pretty much your slave! For the love of God, enough whining and crying!”


Aaaanyway. It was wonderful to see the Mr. walk through the door this morning. After a brief (i.e.: 15 minute) hello, I made a bee-line for the front door and did what any desperate woman would do. Hello, day spa!


I contemplated whether or not I should spend the money before the holidays, as we have lots of plans over Christmas and New Years, but Adam encouraged me to just go for it. I don’t know about you, but spending money on indulgences like the spa makes me feel somewhat guilty! However, I think that also makes me appreciate the escape from reality even more. It’s a special treat and I’ll admit, a luxury pedicure and 1-hour facial was everything I needed to recompose.

This got me thinking about my favourite ways to to relax. I feel like since becoming a mother, these moments are few and far between, so I try to really live in the moment whenever they occur. Here’s NINE (I couldn’t think of ten) of my favourite ways to kick back and take a breather.

1. A Spa Appointment: Always money well spent {well, maybe not the one experience with Martha in a dodgy basement spa, buuuut that’s an amazing story for another day} . Anyway, it’s definitely an indulgence and only something I only do every so often, but my anticipation for a spa date is similar to Christmas as a 7 year old. It’s just the best time to forget about everything, put the phone/computer away for an hour or two, and escape reality (or a teething baby). I tend to just stick to the basics: pedicure, facial, massage, or manicure (in that order). I’ve never done a wrap, but have heard amazing things…maybe next time.

2. Take A Nap: Napping is also an indulgence these days. I used to feel like naps made me groggy and almost set me back a few paces. Probably because I let them drag on for too long. I find that a 45 minute to 1 hour nap is the perfect amount of time to reenergize and boost my mood when I’m feeling completely out of sorts. My favourite time to nap would definitely be on a weekend morning after being up for an hour or two and realizing that I am still desperately tired.

3. Bath Time: You know what? Since moving into our new home in September, I’ve officially taken ZERO baths! Not to worry. I’ve been in the shower. Our tub is amazing, too. It’s just something that requires a bit more time and commitment, and I’ve not taken the time for it. However, I love bath time with candles and perhaps a Lush bath bomb thrown into the mix. So relaxing and great for the muscles, too. Adding this to my to-do list this week!

4. A Book and A Comfy Hangout: Depending on where I am in the world (or the season), my location preference changes. Under a beach umbrella is always a win-win. In Australia, I love sitting out on our patio. In Canada, I love curling up in front of the fire on a cold night. I’ll admit that I am not a daily reader, which makes me sad. Growing up, I was an avid reader, and as a teacher, I preached it to my kids every day. Finding the time as an adult has been a challenge for me, so when I have the chance to tune out and get lost in a good novel, I truly cherish it.


5. Attend a Yin Yoga Class: Preferably in a hot yoga studio. Detox the mind and body! Other forms of yoga are also therapeutic, however yin yoga is so much more peaceful. If I just want to chill out while exercising without feeling the need to “push it”, yin is my go-to.

6. Bake. Preferably with soft background music. For me, there is a big difference between cooking and baking. I find that cooking is a little more full-throttle. Like running or something. It’s go-go-go! Baking is so much more relaxing. Stirring and slowly combining ingredients…bliss! Plus, cooking is normally done with a time limit, and usually happens later in the day (for me, at least). “Gotta hurry up and get dinner ready by such-and-such a time..because we have to eat.” Baking, on the contrary, is normally done during down time and is not typically a necessity. Instead, it’s a choice and an indulgence. Oh, and know what I love even more than baking? Baking alongside Christmas music. Yes Yes Yes!

7. Tea Time. If you know me at all, you know how much I love my daily coffee. However, java is almost a psychological necessity in my daily life. Like, if I don’t have my coffee, I’m pretty much a monster. Or 100% useless. Tea on the other hand is more of an experience. It’s much more comforting and relaxing. There are so many flavours to suit your momentary mood, so I find it to be much more appropriate when I just need to take a breather or refocus.


8. Wine O’Clock. Okay, so as I am sitting here typing this post, I am also sipping away on a glass of red. Thomas is asleep and Adam is snoring on the couch beside me, so what better way to chill out by my lonesome than spew my thoughts into a blog post and savour some Aussie wine! Definitely relaxation at its prime.


9. Shop-a-Thon. I love shopping. I could go for hours, not buy anything, and still be perfectly content. I know that some people find shopping to be overwhelming and stressful, which is totally cool. It’s not for everyone. However, I find browsing clothing racks or reading food ingredients to be very relaxing and therapautic. Shopping is extremely appealing to me right now, likely due to the fact that I have only gone once in the past 10 months without a baby in tow! I’ve always been a “shop-til-you-drop” girl, though. Love it.

Do you identify with any of these relaxation techniques?

Are there any other forms of relaxation that you gravitate towards? Someday I hope to appreciate meditation. I enjoy it for a few minutes post-yoga in savasana pose, but otherwise I really struggle with it. I have a hard time subsiding my thoughts while I’m still awake.

Have a fantastic weekend!!! I’ll be back with my Elf For Health Week #2 update on Sunday :)

16 Thoughts on “Relaxation 101: Nine Ways To Take A Time-Out

  1. I can imagine being a single mom is crazy hard! 2 weeks is a long time to be by yourself. These sound like all amazing ways to relax and take advantage of some me-time. I’m totally with you on the spa, reading a book or baking.

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on December 7, 2013 at 12:33 am said:

      Yeah, it’s just a long haul not having another adult to talk to at night, or someone to say, “Hey, can you watch him for 30 minutes while I shower?!?!” I’m learning to appreciate our family time so much more!

      “Me time” is so important, even if it does only happen sporadically :)

  2. Wine, tea, a book and a bath are all amazing things that definitely work for me, too! I also can’t meditate no matter how many times I’ve tried! I guess it takes some practice but so far, I’ve been unsuccessful. I also like to do some Zumba. It’s fun and high intensity, so it sort of feels like a detox and a good workout!

  3. I kind of love that our posts were so similar today:)
    But I don’t love the stress that’s been added to your plate. I can only imagine the challenges happening!
    At least you have some good ways to cope with the stress! I always remember that it’s so important to focus on our own self-care so we can care for others and not get run down! Always important.
    Happy Friday!<3

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on December 7, 2013 at 9:33 am said:

      Totally agree, Lisa. Otherwise it is just a vicious circle. It’s so nice just to take a quick time out; it can be a game changer!!

  4. I can imagine being on your own with a baby and also being away from home is very difficult. Feel free to vent all you want sister. You deserve it! You all deserved that spa day.

    I haven’t taken a bath in forever but I have been craving them recently. A Lush bomb would be so nice too.

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on December 10, 2013 at 10:37 pm said:

      Thanks, Sarah!
      I should be in the tub, but instead I am here on my computer! It’s so warm here that it’s hard to sit in hot water right now! haha

  5. Oh girl, you deserve some spa time! I can identify with most all of these, especially the wine. 😉

  6. Love everything about this! I’ve decided the “sick” day I called in today was a time-out. Life has just been crazy and I’ve definitely neglected myself. I would literally give anything for a spa day but for now a day in bed not dealing with work and instead watching endless hours of terrible british reality TV will have to do 😉

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on December 10, 2013 at 10:38 pm said:

      A day in bed watching tv sounds absolutely joyous right now! I hope you had a great day and are reenergized for the week :)

  7. Thanks for sharing these tips Kelly! These are great. I LOVE drinking tea and baking when I need to relax. It’s so soothing. I really want to start getting into a routine of stretching before bed and when I wake up. I think it would just start and end the day on a positive, relaxing note. We’ll see!

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on December 12, 2013 at 8:39 pm said:

      Stretching is a great one! Before/After sleeping is something I never do, but it would probably make a big difference. Good idea!

      I’m hoping to do some Christmas baking this weekend, but I need Adam to take the little guy out for a couple of hours. Otherwise, it’s not overly relaxing with someone pulling at my pant leg and screaming as background music 😉

  8. You definitely sound like you need that day spa! Nanna naps works for me, I’ll get extremely groggy if I don’t get 30 minutes in every arvo. Pretty sad but it works! :)

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