This Is It: Appreciating Each Moment

That feeling of anticipation and excitement as you look forward to something for so long…and in the blink of an eye, it is over.

I’m not a happy camper today. I jokingly refer to it as ‘post-party depression’, but in all seriousness, I’m feeling pretty let down and deflated. We have been looking forward to Adam’s brothers, Andy & Logan, and their girlfriends Martha & Candice, to visit us in Australia for months. I seriously thought about it every single day leading up to their arrival. We had the greatest time together over the past few weeks. So many hysterically funny moments and memories. I couldn’t have asked for a better way to spend the holidays.


I feel so blessed to live here in Brisbane, and Australia in general. It is an absolutely beautiful part of the world, and I am grateful every day for my life here. However, I do struggle with the fact that we are so far away from ‘home’.


I miss my family. Thomas’s grandparents and uncles have only spent limited time with him when we visited Canada last summer, and basically only know him through photos, videos, and FaceTime. Having a baby is incredibly exciting and overwhelmingly wonderful, so it’s been difficult not having shared these moments with our loved ones. We only have one life, and the lack of time spent with our parents and siblings scares me sometimes.

I miss my friends. I have met some incredible people here in Australia who have been extremely supportive and inviting. We definitely cherish these friendships and I don’t want to downplay them in any way. However, I oftentimes feel like I’m missing out. I missed two of my best friends’ weddings this year. Two others had babies. Some are planning their weddings. Some are planning their nurseries. I left Calgary, and my sister best friend moved there a few months later. Those people who I can just invite over to hang out in sweatpants, and know they won’t judge me for having a messy house or not having to feel the need to “host” them. There is a level of comfort that you acquire from longterm friendships; it’s a difficult void to fill.

Moving to the other side of the planet (and becoming a mother here) has certainly broadened my horizons, diversified my perspectives, and has essentially made me a stronger person. It has made me appreciate the little things, value my independence, and the cherish the simple moments.

Kelly & Adam123

About 8 weeks before we met our little Bubs.

I typically try to tie my posts back to living a healthy lifestyle in some way, but today I just need to release these thoughts. It makes me feel better getting it all out, so I can look forward with positivity and a clear mind.

I have a feeling 2014 is going to be a fantastic year. I have a few goals and plans laid out in terms of fitness, nutrition, and personal development, which I will be sharing in my next post. Today, I just want to recompose, reset, and refocus. Although I am so sad to see our visitors leave and our holiday to come to an end, I am also filled with incredible gratitude. We are so blessed.

I was listening to an interview with my other main man, Keith Urban, a little while ago as he recalled a conversation he’d had that week with his wife, Nicole Kidman. As they sat outside watching their daughters play in the evening air, she looked at him, smiled and stated, “This is it.” As simple as that sounds, there is such depth. Take time this weekend to “live in the moment”, whoever you are with and whatever you are doing. It’s wonderful to really appreciate these time as they are happening, instead of only reflecting on them once they are over.

We will miss you guys so much, but look forward to many more laughs and memories when we see you in August. Xx



16 Thoughts on “This Is It: Appreciating Each Moment

  1. Alison on January 12, 2014 at 5:28 pm said:

    My goodness this post made my heart hurt a little bit. We are all definitely happy for and your adventure but we miss our Kelly. A little bit of “us” is missing every time we all get together. Thank goodness for FaceTime, Skype, iMessage etc.. Little things that can help us connect just a bit more. I always find “see you soon’s” very hard and I don’t think they ever get any easier. So happy to hear you have exciting goals/ plans for 2014 and I am so excited to follow you through the year. Anxiolusly awaiting a new Thomas upload- and I must say I am really loving the brunette in you!!!!!! XO

  2. I can’t imagine being so far away from my family! It’s totally understandable that you’re feeling this way after they left. It must be so hard! But, at least you got to make some great memories and spend some quality time with them!

  3. I can totally relate to how you feel. Living in Northern California is amazing but it still sucks being so far from family. I can’t imagine having a baby too.

    As hard as it is, I love your approach to appreciating each moment. It can be difficult to do sometimes but it’s so important.

  4. Aw, Kelly, I can relate to this post more than you know.
    In fact, I just had a little break-down just last night. (my sweet partner handles these very patiently when I just need to cry and say “I miss my family! I miss my friends!”)
    The holidays make it ‘sting’ a little extra, don’t they?
    I’m so glad you had visitors and got to see some people you really miss. It sure does make you appreciate! I have learned to cherish every moment, and I think it really makes your family appreciate the times you DO get together even more.
    I totally know how it feels to feel like you’re missing out on important stuff back home!
    Just wanted to send ya a hug and a ‘girrrrrl, I feel ya’
    p.s. Your brunette hair looks fab! I just chopped 12 inches off mine for the new year! It’s definitely been refreshing in this heat!

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on January 14, 2014 at 9:44 pm said:

      Aw, thank you so much Emily!!! Great hearing from you. It’s necessary to get a good cry fest out every now and again, especially after the holidays are over.
      I still need to respond to your email; I haven’t forgotten! <3

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  6. You are doing awesome, Kelly. I can understand how hard all of this is- I complain about my upcoming move but it is so insignificant to a full overseas venture! 2014 IS going to be a fantastic year for you, and I can’t wait to follow your journey through it- I’m stoked to have come across another blogger on this time frame!

    If you ever need an ear to vent to, lettuce know! And PS seeing as I’ll be closer I reckon a blogger meet up will happen too. Moreso for me to give Vegemite for Thomas. Oh, and expired Kashi cereal.

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on January 15, 2014 at 10:01 am said:

      Thanks, buddy! I really appreciate your kind words!
      I wish Australia had things like Healthy Living Summit or FitBloggin!!!

  7. I can relate to this so much Kelly. Every time we had visitors and they left i felt seriously depressed. the fact that i missed my sisters engagment will always bother me, and missing so many events like weddings, graduations, baby births, etc., it’s so difficult. i always tried to remember that it wasnt permanent, and also tried to remember that we were there for a purpose, and it would just help us in the future, so I tried to soak it in as much as possible. it sounds like youre doing so well with making friends, exploring new things like body attck teaching, traveling, etc., but I am so glad you wrote about your sadness and hope you felt a bit better afterwards, that always helped me. Thinking of you! Xoxo

    • Kelly @ Femme Fitale on January 17, 2014 at 10:04 am said:

      It was definitely therapeutic writing about it! If anything, I am learning to really appreciate the simple moments with family and friends, and not take any of it for granted. I know you can empathize with my situation, so thanks for your words and being so sweet!! x

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  9. Its so true. This IS it. Even if its not exactly where we want to be right now, we have to make the best of it, right? And it’s not all bad if we’re with someone we love :)

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